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1)      They’re Not Professionals You’re close with your friends. They’ve been with you through thick and thin. However they do not have the training or knowledge you need when it comes to the matters of your heart. Taking advice from …

“Lisa” came to coaching because she was still trying to get over a relationship that had ended several months earlier. After dating “Josh” for a couple of months, she was blind-sided when, over dinner one night, he delivered the dreaded …

That’s right, all men out there that are in relationships who do not want to have sex… DO NOT DO THE DISHES!!! There is a direct correlation to doing housework and getting laid. You don’t believe me? Go ahead, I …

As cave people our needs were simple. We slept, hunted, ate, pooped and had sex (not necessarily in that order). Life wasn’t too confusing. Sexual attraction was an innate instinct, imperative for the survival and propagation of our species. We …

If you’ve been “out there” for a while then you probably realized how frustrating the dating world can be. There are an overwhelming amount of articles and books that tell you how you should go about dating, and you’ve even tried some of these rules out. But you’re still alone. You might have even looked to romantic films to give you a few pearls of wisdom. Yet with all of this advice floating around, you’re still single and wondering how anyone ever finds the person they are meant to be with.

Here are some of the ridiculous dating rules that I’ve collected over the years from clients:

1. Don’t call him after the first date. Make him call you.
2. If he calls, wait two days to call him back.
3. Keep the phone conversation to less than ten minutes and make sure you are the one to end it.
4. Don’t show him you’re interested or you will scare him off.
5. Don’t go out with him more than once a week for the first five months.
6. Be mysterious and keep him guessing.
7. Don’t accept a Saturday date after Wednesday.

I can go on and on and list tons of rules that people have invented and professed as the keys to finding and keeping a man, but the truth is there is no universal handbook with strict guidelines that will effectively lead you through the murky waters of dating. These rules are simply about playing mind games and if you are playing games with him, you are guaranteed that he will play some games of his own with you. Relationships are about being honest and open. If you want to build a solid foundation for everlasting love, you need to stop playing games and get real.

You are not a drone; you are a complex human with your own unique set of values. So wouldn’t it make sense that you should create your own rules based on your own values to guide you to the right man?

The answers to the following questions should help you come up with a few personal dating rules that make sense for you:

‘Natasha’ came to me because she was great at finding all the wrong men. When she first walked into my office, she sat on my couch, folded her arms close to her chest and crossed her legs. Besides listening to …

Going from married to divorced can be one of the toughest events a person can ever go through. There are a lot of raw emotions flying around and you never know when or where they are going to land. The …