How Should I Act On A First Date?

When I was dating, I wanted to give women the impression that I was the perfect combination of manliness: a little bit of danger and adventure á la Indiana Jones; a touch of the suave cockiness of Tom Cruise, and a generous dose of brilliance reminiscent of Albert Einstein. I so badly wanted to come off as “cool,” so whomever I was with would find me irresistible, and according to the media, this was the only way I could hope to be successful with women. HA! The truth is that despite what we’re force-fed through TV and movies, these dramatized, overly polished, and perfectly scripted courtships are not “how to” videos about how to meet a mate. Not even close.

Once you understand that the media is providing you nothing but unrealistic expectations that are impossible fulfill, you may find yourself baffled about how you’re truly supposed to present yourself on a date. If you really want to know how to act on a first date then turn off the TV and take a good look at yourself. You are who you are, and you should never deviate from that. Not when dating, and not anywhere else in life, either. Now, I’m not saying that you should show up on your first date wearing stained sweatpants and burping the alphabet. You can save that true you for a later date. What I am saying is that when meeting someone for the first…or second…time, you shouldn’t bother hiding behind a false persona. In fact, if you ever wish to be happy in a relationship, then you absolutely must be your true, authentic self, and stop trying to pretend that you’re Magnum PI’s long lost cousin. (Yes, I just dated myself by using a 80’s pop culture reference…but you got what I meant, didn’t you?)

The bottom line is that a true lasting connection between people will only occur when each person sees the other for who they really are, and find themselves genuinely attracted to one another’s authenticity. There’s nothing wrong with letting your inner Superman shine from time to time…just make sure she knows exactly who you are when the cape comes off, too.

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