Hi Jason,
I’ve been working at a clothing retail store for over a year. There is a co-worker who I’ve been crushing on pretty hard. Until two months ago she had a boyfriend. I never made a move on her. However, I did flirt with her and she flirted back. We have so much fun at work joking around and laughing. When she broke up with her boyfriend I was ecstatic! I finally had my chance to ask her out. I waited about a week and then asked her out to dinner. She got all weird and said, “I just got out of a five year relationship and I just want to be alone for now.” I was really hurt, but I guess I understood.
Then fast forward five days and all of a sudden she has this new guy picking her up from work. She started calling this guy her new boyfriend right away. It was really painful to me. So instead of stewing in misery, I decided that I would ask someone else out instead. The new girl I’m dating now is fun and we’ve gone out a bunch of times over the past few weeks. She’s not my girlfriend yet, but I think that might be coming. Last week I found out that my co-worker broke up with the new guy and she’s single again. I still like her a lot and she’s been flirting with me again. Should I ask her out and get rid of the new girl I’m dating? I like my co-worker much more.
ANSWER
Dude! You’re all over the place! You said you have a girl that you’ve been seeing and you are having a lot of fun. Then you ask me if you should ‘get rid of’ her so you can pursue the woman who clearly rejected you. My advice to you is to stop dating this new girl for her sake. You obviously can’t be that into her if you are willing to drop her at a moments notice. It’s just mean to keep leading her on.
I also think you shouldn’t pursue your co-worker. She rejected you once with the excuse that she needed to get over her boyfriend. Then she flaunted her new boyfriend in front of you only a few days after she rejected you with a lame excuse. She’s bad news buddy. Even if she does go out with you she’d mess with your head. She just got out of a five year relationship and instead of taking time to work on herself she’s jumping from man to man avoiding deeper issues.
It’s clear to me that you want what you can’t have. Take some time by yourself and find out who you are and what you need in a relationship. Once you figure that out you can rejoin the dating pool and have more success in finding a proper mate!
